How to have an ethical sex life: kind to you, others, and the planet?

Let’s talk about sex - the kind that feels good, does good, and leaves no toxic trace. Having an ethical sex life means making choices that are kinder to your body, your partners, and the planet. Whether you’re deep into the world of ecosexuality or just curious about how to make your bedroom habits more conscious, we’ve got you covered.

And if courgette sex toys aren’t your thing - don’t worry. Ethical sex doesn’t mean compromising on pleasure. Here are three ways to make your sex life more erotic, ethical, and eco-friendly.

Consent & communication

In the wake of #MeToo, consent has (finally) become a hot topic in the sexual wellness world and with good reason.

A Washington Post survey found that: 22% of college students believe kissing implies consent to further sexual activity and 20% of women reported being sexually assaulted on campus.

This snapshot shows why affirmative consent - clear, verbal agreement before any sexual activity - should be the standard. And yes, it can be sexy. Think: “Do you want me to touch you there?” “Can I go down on you?” These aren’t just consent questions - they’re steamy lines that belong right alongside your best dirty talk. Just watch Normal People for a masterclass in ethical, erotic communication. Consent isn’t a mood killer - it’s a mood builder. It creates safety, trust, and deeper connection. And that’s something everyone can get behind.

Ethical porn

One reason consent feels confusing? It’s almost never shown in traditional porn. Historically, the porn industry has been built by men, for men - and it shows. Female pleasure is often sidelined, while violence and unrealistic expectations dominate the screen. But things are changing. Platforms like Make Love Not Porn, founded by sexual wellness advocate Cindy Gallop, showcase real sex with all its glorious imperfections, emotions, and mutual pleasure. Gallop calls it the “gold standard” for good sexual values and behavior.

Then there’s Lust Cinema, led by Erika Lust, which champions: diversity, safe sex, fair pay and ethical working conditions.

Watching ethical porn doesn’t just give you a healthier view of sex - it supports sex workers and promotes a culture of respect and realism. That’s hot.

Ethical products

If you’re rethinking your sex life, don’t forget the products you bring into the bedroom. From condoms to lube, your choices matter for your body and the planet.

An ethical sex life isn’t about rules or restrictions - it’s about intention. It’s about choosing pleasure that’s respectful, inclusive, and sustainable. Whether you’re exploring new desires or deepening old connections, you deserve sex that feels good in every sense.

At Lunette, we believe that sexual wellness should be shame-free, planet-friendly and rooted in self-love and mutual respect.

So, let’s keep the conversation going. Follow us on Instagram @lunettecup and join the movement toward conscious pleasure, because ethical sex is the future, and it feels amazing.

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